The Word of the Day is ~ Money Shot

I’ve been spending a lot of time lately thinking about sex....

Yes, this may come as a shock to some, but I think about sex a lot. Guys are supposedly thinking about it every what, seven seconds? Well hey, maybe I’m just a guy with an extra leg of chromosome to give me all the fun parts.

I think about sex a lot, and every now and then someone hits me with a comment or a question that makes me stop and pause and realize, “That’s right, not everyone is like me.”

Now, my rule of thumb is Every Person Is Different. It’s something I’ve picked up off a mailing list I belong to, and it’s something that I’ve long held dear, even before then. So yes, on a conscious level I’m aware that we’re not all the same. But sometimes it takes some reminding, and my latest quest for pornography has made that supremely clear.

I realize no one will believe it, but I rarely read or look at porn online. I mean, sure, every now and then I’ll drop into alt.sex.stories and check to see if there’s anything good, but really, I don’t get off on still images, and there’s a lot of video that just isn’t long enough or worth it, so I usually rely on my own imagination, which is fertile enough to keep me going.

But that’s me, and you’re not me.

Video porn has a lot of good and bad to say for it, and one of the those things that can be both is the money shot. For anyone that doesn’t know, the money shot is that scene in pornography where the man comes on the woman’s face. Sometimes the money shot will also refer to him coming on another other body part she makes available, but today we’ll refer to the face money shot.

I’ve discussed this one recently with two different friends of mine, both of the male persuasion, and they had different views on the subject. One has stated that he finds it sexy, and the other stated that he finds it somewhat disrespectful and distasteful. This opinion isn’t reflected in any of their other sexual interests, either; neither of them is particularly prudish, especially not the second. So, it makes me stop and think.

What is the point or the appeal of the money shot?

Now, if I wanted to go on a feminist rant, I could get into one aspect of the appeal: the whole dehumanization of the woman, showing her being degraded, ultimate power of the man over the woman, blah blah blah… and for some videos I’ve seen or people I’ve known, sure, that is the appeal. But I don’t think that’s the entire point to porn or the entire appeal, so I’m not going to bother extending that argument. Besides, I’m pro-porn, so I’m going to move right along.

I’m annoying my online friends by polling as many of them as I can, and I’ve gotten some good quotes from them:

“Why does it piss me off? Well, mainly because its just not fun. I mean, the guy gets off, sure, but he does so in an offensive, demonstrative fashion.”

“Porn's tailored to guys fantasies, so it fits in porn - especially since a lot of guys like the whole dominance aspect of it. In real life, though, unless she asks for it, I wouldn't do it. It seems a touch degrading in real life. And I don't see her asking for it.”

“I am indifferent towards it. I personally dont find it degrading to women, though I hear many women feel that way.”

“I always thought that make it sound almost painful.....like they are passing kidney stones or something.....way too much grunting.”

“As long as he asks first? I wouldn't want someone to come on my face without asking. Frankly, it looks kinda gross.”

“Well... quite frankly I don't see why some people think it's so great. I couldn't do it...seems insulting”

But what makes it sexy? Well, it’s seeing someone have an orgasm, which is pretty sexy and lends an end point to the entire scene as it were.

One friend I just polled offered up: “Its the most personal thing to do, to orgasm. When you do it ON someone, it's great, because they accept the most personal part of you.”

As I replied, I don’t have the same equipment, so I generally don’t have much choice but to orgasm on someone.

Anyhow… the money shot. I guess my main thought on the money shot is that it just seems so anticlimactic, as odd as that may seem. The actress has to alternately keep her eyes open to look sexy for the camera, meet the actor’s gaze, keep her mouth open and lick her lips to look appealing, encourage the actor… and then make sure she times it properly so that her eyes are closed when he’s shooting. I mean, here’s all this effort and grunting and groaning… to do what? To spew a few teaspoons of some sticky fluid across some actress’ face. Like I said, seems anticlimactic.

Then there’s getting it out of your hair, eyebrows, ears, nose, eyes, mouth… all this effort, just for those few seconds.

Mind you, I guess the same could be said about sex itself, although the lead up to those few seconds is awfully fantastic.

~Gentlemen, Read This!!! It Could Save Your Life~

The article below could very well save your life. It is a must read.

The Word of the Day is Peace

I am pro choice. I don't necessarily agree with abortion, but I do agree that everyone should have the right to choose.

I am not a proponent of late term abortions.

I'm most definitely not a proponent of the death penalty.

What I think is ludicrous is that someone shoots an abortion doctor because they are against abortion and thinks that abortion is murder. So, they murder someone to stop the murdering????

George Tillman, whether he was right or wrong was sentenced to death, by someone who did not have the right to sentence him to death.

~The Word of The Day is Awwwww~

~ When a client comes over and tells you that you look "REALLY GOOD".

~ When a client calls you to say "THANK YOU"

~ When a friend comes over and was disappointed when she wasn't able to say "Happy Birthday" to Diesel.

~ When you get pictures from your dogs Day Care of your precious baby taking a first bite of his cake.

All of the above happened in just one day.

The Word of the day is Hypocrisy

One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others. ~Moliere~

Carrie Prejean said, "I am a Christian, and I am a model. Models pose for pictures, including lingerie and swimwear photos. Recently photos taken of me as a teenager have been released surreptitiously to a tabloid web site that openly mocks me for my Christian faith."

Implants. Poising topless. Ummmmmm....last I heard, that was not Christian behavior.

This woman just oozes hypocrisy.

She is the sweet Christian girl when the cameras are rolling, but the minute those camera's shut off, it's "Pass the Bong Please".

Now she is saying that "God made her answer the question" posed by Perez Hilton.

Give me a break! Leave God out of this. If this woman is willing to pose half naked to further her career, no problem. I really have no issue with that. Just don't try to pretend that you are something you are not. This woman would sell her soul for fame.

Bristol Palin trying to be a role model and now Carrie Prejean.

Please don't.

My daughter can do without your influence.

The Word of the Day is Diet

Eating right and working out is critical for a healthier sex life.

What is also critical is a Positive Mental Attitude. You have to believe you are hot and believe you are sexy. A self-confident state of mind is critical for hot sex in the bedroom.

A good sex diet consists of:

Avoiding sugar and sugary snacks;
Reducing your intake of tea, coffee and chocolate;
Increasing nutrient-rich foods like fruits, vegetables, whole wheat and seeds;
Increasing foods rich in arginine like fish, turkey, chicken beans tofu, nuts and seeds
Eating tuna, mackerel or salmon
Eating seeds and nuts ~ pumpkin, sunflower and sesame

Minimizing your intake of fried and processed foods and fat from meat and dairy.

Although it may seem convenient to go to McDonald's for an Egg McMuffin and a chocolate milk while on your way to your incall, it is truly wrecking havoc on your zest for hot sex.

~The Word of the Day is Professionalism

I read my friend, Ciara's blog today.

I've blogged many times about being busy, but it took Ciara's usual brilliant prose to make it understandable.

When I see cattiness on the various message boards or gossip mongers I just shake my head. How do these women have TIME for this type of behavior?

Shopping, manicures, pedicures, hair appointments, tanning, working out and dieting take up a HUGE amount of time.

Then you add the other 93 things on your "to-do list" ~ that is an extremely busy day.

The type of provider Ciara describes is a consummate professional who gives 110% to the industry she is in and the to career she has chosen.

She loves what she does and has dedicated herself to her profession as a pleasure provider.

From time-to-time, I hear about providers who engage in gossip or try to undermine another provider's integrity, or who are just downright nasty to another provider. I just shake my head and laugh.
A provider who has time to do such things surely is not dedicated to her profession as a pleasure provider.

Those same providers then wonder why they are not busy.....well....Why would a hobbyist want to see a woman who has not immersed herself into giving pleasure to him???

~The Word of the Day is Herb

Not THAT kind of herb people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Since the beginning of time, there has been the constant search for ways to stimulate sexual activities.

With renewed interest in herbs towards the end of the 20th Century, herbs came to the forefront.

Some think that because herbs are natural, they are the Holy Grail. However, there are side effects and adverse reactions, so care should be taken.

Bayberry ~ A fruit used by women for sexual enhancement. This fruit has the ability to increase blood flow and capillary dilation in the mucus membranes of the vagina.

Catuaba ~ Both men and women in South America use this herb for stimulating the central nervous system. This herb has the unique ability to control the sexual responses of the consumer.

Cayenne ~ This fruit makes sexual organs stronger and efficient.

Cuscuta ~ Cuscuta seeds stimulate or normalize that part of the body which controls the sexual organs. The consumption of these seeds will control premature ejaculation.

Ginseng ~ Ginseng stimulates the sperm production. This herb promotes stronger arousal, better genital functions and stronger physical feelings.

Epidemium (Horny Goat Weed) ~ This herb promotes stronger genital feelings. It also promotes fertility through increased sperm production. It affects the central nervous system and increases sexual desires.

Peppermint ~ Peppermint leaves stimulate the lubrication in the genital system. Lubrication enhances the pleasure during sexual intercourse.

Herbs are a wonderful alternative to prescriptions ~ do your homework and make sure they are safe.

The World of the day is Climate Control

I got up really early on Sunday and took the dogs to the park. An hour later it started raining. A couple hours later it was sleeting, then a couple hours later it was snowing.

I can't even remember the last time it snowed in April.

Below is another picture of Diesel. Capone is a HUGE fan of the camera. Diesel, like his mommy, hates having his picture taken.

The Word of the Day is Chew Toy

I leave the house. I shut ALL OF MY CLOSET DOORS.

I come home to find my closet door open and in the middle of the living room my NEW Designer Shoes.

I also find a pair of my underwear, buried under my Puggle's bed. I won't go into the condition of the underwear out of respect for those reading this.




I think my dogs invite a friend over, a friend with THUMBS, to facilitate the opening of my closet doors.

I just can't believe this!!!!!!!!!!! I mean they have an unlimited supply of bones. WHY do they choose my designer shoes.

The Word of the Day is Egyptian~

Sexuality in ancient Egypt was very open. There was no guilt about sex at all. In fact it was a very important part of life, death and rebirth. Not only did single and married couples have sex, but the Gods themselves copulated. The Egyptians also believed in sex in the afterlife. Sex was not taboo among the ancient Egyptians, even the Egyptian religion was filled with tales of adultery, incest, homosexuality, masturbation and even hints of necrophilia.

The most attractive women were fertile woman. Egyptian women strived to be intelligent, wise, mystical and most importantly mothers.

Men had to prove their masculinity by fathering children, while the women had to be able to BEAR these children. Being a mother meant being able to keep their marriage secure and gain a better position within society.

Unmarried women were free to choose as many partners as they desired and to enjoy their love life to the fullest.

If you were married, however, adultery was wrong. Women were punished the harshest for adultery, they could be sentenced to death. The man however, was just forced to be divorced.

Prostitutes advertised themselves through their clothing and make up. Some wore blue beaded fish-net dresses. They painted their lips red and tattooed their breasts or thighs and some even went around totally nude.

The Egyptians had both contraceptives and abortions. Mostly these were prescriptions that were filled with really gross ingredients like crocodile dung.

Lettuce, ginger, fennel, pomegranates, coriander with wine and radish mixed with honey were some of the common aphrodisiacs. The priests were forbidden to have onions as it was said to arouse their sexual desires. Other unusual aphrodisiacs were pearls dissolved in a cup of wine and baboon faces added to aphrodisiac ointments.

Sex was an important aspect in the life of ancient Egyptians where they believed in enjoying sex even after their death. Fake penises and nipples were attached to the mummies so that they may engage in an active sex life even after their death. The Egyptians also believed in begetting children even after their death by installing fertility dolls with wide child bearing hips and paddle dolls that ended abruptly at a wide pubic area with tiny heads, arms and legs.

Thus the ancient Egyptians enjoyed sex almost to the fullest not only during their lifetime but believed to enjoy sex even after the culmination of their earthly life.

Fairy Godmother Quiz

You find a fairy godmother. With a wave of their wand, they can change anything for you:

What is the one thing you with change about your body?
My boobs. I wish they were bigger.

What is the one personality trait you would change?
My ability to procrastinate. I wish I would procrastinate less.

What is the one thing about your home you would change?
The management company. I LOVE my location. I hate the management company.

What is the one thing about your Significant Other you would change?

His cynicism.

Who is the one person you would poof out of your life and why?

My ex-boyfriend, Jim. This guy still calls me. He has even dropped over a couple of times. I HATE hurting people's feelings, but I just want to tell him that he "makes me throw up a little bit in my mouth" and I wish he would leave me alone.

Who is the one person you would poof back in and why?

My mom. Sometimes when something amazing happens, I still get that thought that I want to pick up the phone and call her.

~What Kind of Kisser am I?~

You're an Expert Kisser

You're a kissing pro, but for you, it's all about quality and not quantity. You've perfected your kissing technique and can knock anyone's socks off. And you're adaptable, giving each partner what they crave. When it comes down to it, your kisses are truly unforgettable.

What Kind of Kisser Are You?

The Word of the Day is Perfect Imperfection

Body Image is the great debate in this business.

Is the body below perfect or imperfect?

Some would say imperfect, because this women has stretch marks.

Some would say perfect, because although she has stretch marks, she is in amazing shape.

"imperfection is beauty, madness is genius. It is better to be absolutely ridiculous, then absolutely boring."

~Marilyn Monroe~

~Your IPod Just Got Sexier~

When I finally emerged into the 21st. Century by buying an IPod, I was very excited.

I am ALWAYS looking for new gadgets to hook up to my IPod. Well, kiddies, look what I found.

It's called OhBiBod. According to their website, it is a "sleek, sophisticated new generation of vibrator that combines elegance of design with the excitement of your favorite music."

You hook this little puppy up to your Ipod and it "vibrates".

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What's even better, is that this website has a tab called, "Club Vibe". Club Vibe has a playlist of songs that other people recommend.

My wishlist has a new item on it. I WANT this puppy.

Website: http://www.ohmibod.com

~It's Still Rock and Roll To Them~

Keith Richards, Tom Jones, Steven Tyler, Ann Wilson, Gene Simmons, Jimmy Page, Alice Cooper

For a bunch of "Rock Stars", these guys really don't look so good.

There comes a time, when you have to hang up your guitar and say I'm retiring.

My 80 year old mother (God Rest Her Soul) looked better than Keith Richards. How can ANYONE want to see him on stage.

Tom Jones, was sexy back in the day, but now he is just scary and he has got a new album coming out.

Jimmy Page wants to revive Led Zeppelin with or without Robert Plant.

Growing old is seldom kind, and I shouldn't make fun of my elders, but then again, whose grandfather still tries to squeeze into a pair patent leather pants.

~An Elite Member of an Elite Club~

I am an elite member of a very elite club, it's called the "I Hate Oprah Club".

Oprah Winfrey has risen from a "talk show host" to sainthood and that truly worries me.

Be it a book, a diet, a president or a pair of jammies, there are people out there who will read, eat, vote or wear whatever Oprah says.

Don't get me wrong, Oprah is very philanthropic, but there are other celebrities out there who just as philanthropic as Oprah and don't need to have their faces splashed over the television when they give to a charity.

Case in point, I absolutely love Ellen Degeneres. She has done so much for Breast Cancer as well as for the people of New Orleans ~ yet she doesn't request an HBO special to laud her charitable work.

For example, Bono is extremely generous, but we don't hear about him every single day on Entertainment Tonight. The same goes for Nicholas Cage, Jackie Chan, Sandra Bullock, Celine Dion and Steven Spielberg.

When Oprah first came to Chicago, I really liked her. Her morning show was a respite from feeding, diapering and burping babies.

Now, however, it is preachy, and reminds me of Jim Jones.

Treats

~I know the treats are in this cabinet. When she's not looking, see if you can't open the cabinet.